As a pastor for nearly 30 years now, I’ve spoken with many parents who are timid to talk to their children about certain difficult subjects. One of the primary hindrances is the fear of being hypocritical. “I can’t talk to my son about the dangers of drug use because I once used drugs.” So instead, these parents let society teach their children.
Parents need to realize two things when talking to their children about difficult subjects like drug use, sexuality, etc:
(1) You are the parent. God has given you the responsibility of raising your child, not the schools, the government, the church, other kids, or another outside source. Don’t abdicate such a great honor. The education of life belongs in the home.
(2) When you explain your reasons for certain views, remind your child that it is God’s Word you are using as your basis, not personal experience. Help your child to understand that your warnings come from the Bible – not yourself. You may have erred in certain areas of life, but that doesn’t change the authority of God.
We – even as parents – are not the authority for raising Godly children; God is, and His Word is our only firm foundation.
You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your might. And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart; you shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down and when you rise up (Deuteronomy 6:5-7).