By pride comes only contention, but with the well-advised is wisdom (Proverbs 13:10).
One of the first lessons of driving a car is to watch your blind spots. These are areas where because of the design of the car, you can’t see in certain areas around you. Every car has them and when driving a car that is new to you, you have to beware of.
In my car, when I’m making a lane change, after I check my mirrors, I always turn and look behind me. I know the blind spots in my car.
You and I have blind spots too. Areas where we don’t – or maybe can’t – always see. The thing about personal blind spots, is that very often we are blind to areas in ourselves. We might have great perceptions of others, but we can’t see ourselves clearly. Self is always going to be your greatest blind spot.
Personal blind spots are interesting because they reveal our pride.
How do you know if you’re proud? By the way you react when someone pops into your blind spot.
When someone points out a possible area of sin, a blind spot, how you respond reveals either pride or humility in you.
A short time after Kim and I married, she said a certain aspect of my driving frightened her. If I’d had a policeman in the car with me, would I be driving the same way?
What did I do? Get angry? Defend myself by saying I’m not breaking the law? Justify myself by saying everyone does it? Excuse myself because I’ve been driving 35 years? Strike back with, “You don’t trust me! Besides, when you drive you …”?
Pride angrily defends ourselves, justifies ourselves, excuses ourselves, or strikes back to make the other person look as bad as we feel.
What if Kim was totally wrong in pointed out what she saw as a blind spot?
Whether Kim was right or wrong wasn’t important. Because I loved her, I didn’t want to scare her. So I apologized for frightening her and worked at changing my driving habit.